Giving Thanks
Tuesday, November 25th, 2008This Thursday, most of us will sit down with family and friends and overeat. Consuming massive portions of turkey, stuffing and cranberry, we’ll glaze over in front of the evening football game as our carbohydrate-rich meals (not tryptophan) cause the letter “Z” to appear and multiply above our heads.
Let’s not lose sight of the real reason we commemorate this day: To give thanks.
In 1621, the Pilgrims declared a three-day autumn feast to thank God and to show appreciation to native Americans who helped them reap a bountiful summer harvest following a harsh New England winter that killed nearly half of their population through starvation and sickness.
Today in 2008, we still give thanks for the harvest. And for the love of our family. Appreciation for our community and world leaders. Thanks to God. And usually, embedded in the rote recitation of those we thank, we experience a moment of genuine appreciation. A flash when we truly feel grateful for an act of kindness, a deed of service or some effort that’s been made on our behalf.
I’ve studied the science of biofeedback and was fortunate to learn how to generate and suppress Alpha waves, the brain waves most commonly connected with physical pleasure. For example, if you envision yourself alone in a field staring down into a dark, empty hole, you’ll suppress Alpha. But if you visualize yourself doing something that truly brings you joy, you’ll generate Alpha. The trick lies in knowing what truly brings you joy - and not what society or the media might sell to your ego as happiness. Often times, what the ego thinks makes you happy is the exact opposite of that which truly does make you happy.
Testing and measuring hundreds of thought patterns over a seven-day period, I found the most reliable way to generate Alpha was to experience genuine appreciation; expressing thanks to my parents, my family, my friends, my co-workers and, above all, the one to whom I give thanks as Creator.
For me – and I’ve since learned this is typical – the humble act of showing appreciation sets off a physiological reaction that generates Alpha and creates a natural state of well-being bordering bliss. This pure and simple understanding has made me a better father, a better business owner and a better man. It’s also made me a better copywriter.
So when Thursday rolls around and the smells of Thanksgiving dinner fill the air, I’ll be doing more than paying lip service to the notion of giving thanks. I’ll be showing true appreciation.
As selfish as that may be.
Mark Lipsky, President & CEO